Joey+Rory’s Rory Feek took to his blog once again this morning and made me think about life and about death.
I do that a lot when I read what he writes these days. He makes me happy and sad and inspired all at the same time and it’s an amazing gift that he has.
Here’s the thing, though, I’m not going to share any of Rory’s beautiful thoughts and words today because what he wrote in his blog today seems almost too personal and too intimate to share on my own blog for the purpose of mass consumption. They are his stories and feelings to share, not mine. I respect Rory and because of that I don’t want to use his words that are very obviously from his heart for my own purposes any longer.
I started out writing this blog post like all the others. I was going to share an update on Joey because Rory had shared an update on her. But then something hit me in the middle of gathering my thoughts: I’ve become sad that Joey and Rory’s life has become like some sort of morbid waiting and watching game to people who weren’t interested in them before Joey got sick. I am honestly thinking more along the lines of websites (such as the tabloids) than anything else. I mean, when the paparazzi start asking other stars how they feel about what this couple is going through so that their comments can be turned into a story, that just seems like the time to step back and rethink things, you know?
Unfortunately, I know that I’ve contributed to the looky-loos (people who aren’t interested in the couple’s music, story, or life in general, but are just following along to see what happens next) by posting so many sad (and sappy) blog posts about what the pair is going through, and I feel, I don’t know, guilty or sad for that I guess. I’ve run into this feeling before where I get this sort of knot in the pit of my stomach because I start to I wonder if I’m writing about something because I care and want to share my feelings or because I know that it will get clicks.
Don’t get me wrong, my being sappy and sad wasn’t an act. I’ve been a fan of these two since their Can You Duet? days and have always envied their seemingly idyllic life, which is why I started sharing Rory’s blog posts in the first place long before the cancer diagnosis. I’m a fan and am, in a fan-sort-of-way, invested in what happens to them, which makes me want to share my thoughts and feelings of sadness these days. Sharing is caring, you know? I’m just afraid that my desire to talk about something that I’m genuinely sad about on a personal level has become intertwined with my blog-owner instinct to get people to visit my site, if that makes any sense.
Getting eyeballs onto my blog posts is part of my job and most days I embrace that with little hesitation. A lot of people think so-called click bait is bad; to me it’s a blog survival tool and I don’t apologize for it. But I think I’ve hit a point where getting clicks doesn’t matter as much to me as just letting Joey and Rory enjoy their remaining time together without turning their story into a spectator sport.
So, this will be the last time I share Rory’s blog posts on NashvilleGab until either there’s a miracle or there’s not. I hope everyone understands.
Editor’s note: I got to thinking and this post wasn’t in any way meant to say anyone else in this industry is wrong for continuing to talk about Joey and Rory and to share their story. This is just a personal decision on my part. Everyone has their own way and reason for doing things and I don’t fault anyone for continuing to do what they want.
This post is also nothing against Rory’s blog. I think his posts are so inspiring and beautiful and sad and I cry every time I read them. I’m so glad he shares like he does and I will continue to read what he writes as long as he continues to welcome fans into his incredible life. I feel blessed to have gotten to know Joey through Rory’s eyes. I will just continue to read his blog on my own time without using it as story fodder for my own site.
This post (boy, I’m feeling the urge to explain a lot) is also not against the people who have just recently fell in love with this couple and genuinely feel inspired by them. It’s definitely better late than never. I’m not accusing people who have just found Joey and Rory and now offer up daily prayers as being looky-loos and I’m sorry that some people in the comments have taken this post that way. The looky-loos I meant are the people who are only following Joey’s journey out of morbid fascination. I’m sure you know what I mean. I want people to continue to pray for Joey and Rory regardless of how they found them because I know I will.
This whole thing was just me thinking out loud. Trying to express myself as to why I want to respect them enough to not use what they’re going through just to bring readers to NashvilleGab. I don’t know, I’ve tried to explain and I guess all I can really do is hope people understand what it was I was trying to get across.
UPDATE: If you’ve read this and are angry at me, I ended up writing another post here to try and explain myself better.